with them in a very public way, they now want a refund of the $66,000 they've already paid for her education. her mother says, we're not bothering her. we're not a problem. >> i never wanted this to happen. that's the last thing i wanted. but i wasn't in control of my life anymore. i knew that they were holding me back, emotionally, mentally, and professionally. and that it got to the point where, that was basically my last option. >> reporter: psychologists say boundaries can be tricky for parents with college-age children. >> i have no idea whether she's mentally ill, nor if the parents have any kind of problems that may lead to the behavior that's been described. what do you do when the person is 21 and you're still concerned about the well-being of your child, if your child has a mental health problem? you're still responsible for that child. even though they're 21 years old or 25 years old. >> reporter: at a court intervention, mediators told the irelands they were the issue, not their daughter. when they stopped paying her tuition, aubrey was given a full scholarship from her school fo